It may sabotage our successes or our relationships, preventing us from living the lives we want to live and becoming the people we desire to be.
❇️3 inner critics that all of us have to face❇️
🔹universal human emotion, typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; "I am not enough"
🔹never feeling safe, certain & sure enough; "too good to be true", "it is never enough", "don't get so happy, something bad is going to happen"
🔹measuring the self against others. Comparison kills creativity and joy; "X is better than me"
🔆We all experience internal voices that could be nurturing ("you can do this") or invalidating ("you are a failure")
Both coexist and play an important role on our daily functioning.
👉These voices influence how much we dare to take risks, to believe in ourselves, to engage in relationships, to pursue certain careers, etc.
🤔How different would your life be if instead of an inner critic, you had an Inner Advocate?
🧘🏽♀️How can I do it?
1️⃣ be aware & curious about the voice.
2️⃣ identify how, when, where & why the inner critic shows up.
3️⃣ allow the tension to exist in you. this could be transformative (grow & challenge).
4️⃣ the inner critic could, sometimes, help you see gaps you may have missed. use it to make yourself feel better not worse.
5️⃣ visualize what the inner critic tells you cannot do.
6️⃣ write down, or hold onto, those feelings & thoughts of success.
👉tell yourself you are able of doing whatever you set your mind to.
👉 bring up some positive affirmations & be compassionate to yourself.
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❇️ Many of us are told things such as, “don’t cry,” "stay quiet, don't be annoying" “there’s nothing to be sad about.”
🔹As a culture, we are often taught that we should try to avoid unpleasant emotions at all costs. This leads to an impulse to escape / hide / bury the experience of unpleasant emotions.
👉However, what really happens when we suppress uncomfortable emotions is that, over time, the pleasant emotions are also not felt. When we numb one part of us, there is an impact on ourselves as a whole. Therefore, when you numb sadness, you also numb happiness and joy.
🌊It is helpful to think of our feelings as waves in the ocean. They come and go, rise and fall. No feeling lasts forever and all emotions have a purpose. Anger and sadness are necessary, helpful parts of the human experience, as well as joy and happiness.
🧘🏽♀️Struggling with our emotions often leads to more suffering and anxiety. Practicing expansion can help to tolerate emotions, both comfortable and uncomfortable ones.
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It means making room for our feelings.
🌬️If we give unpleasant feelings enough space, they no longer strain us. With expansion, instead of tensing up or contracting, we are opening up.
💥Fighting or avoiding our feelings does not create room for them, expansion does.
🧘🏽♀️As long as we make room they will move.
➡️ Systemic racism and discrimination are forms of systemic oppression.
➡️Systemic racism is a form of violence that places or keeps people of color in conditions of hunger and poverty through the structural withholding of resources and opportunities, hyper-surveillance, and unjust incarceration inflicted on racialized individuals and communities (Center for Hunger-Free Communities)
👉Experiences with racism are associated with anxiety, depression, and other psychiatric symptoms (Pieterse AL, Todd NR, Neville HA, Carter RT. Perceived racism and mental health among Black American adults: a meta-analytic review. J Counseling Psych. 2012, 59(1):1-9)
👉People’s experiences with oppression and the accompanying trauma have been invalidated for many generations. This invalidation comes from people with the power and privilege enacting oppressive behavior and has also led to people of color internalizing trauma (Self-Stigma: Internalizing Trauma. Wise Wisconsin https://wisewisconsin.org/blog/self-stigma-internalizing-trauma/. Published June 15, 2017)
It is necessary to:
🔹Acknowledge and address systematic oppression and discrimination as trauma to inform the necessary steps toward healing the trauma that millions of people of color face and the circumstances of poverty that exacerbate and reproduce this trauma.
🔹Facilitate the success of mental health professionals of color as well as accessibility of educational resources to shift negative stigmas around mental health in communities of color.
🔎It is well researched in psychology that we continuously recreate our sense of self-worth.
👉This is based on approval / disapproval from our caregivers first, and then from others & society.
These messages can:
💜promote, validate, empower
💔dismiss, marginalize, criticize
our experience of "self"
🔹As a psychologist, I see oppression and its expressions as causing clear psychological trauma.
💥We know that Trauma, especially when systematically reproduced by
racism and discrimination, has generational impacts on the health and well-being of people.
➡️Breaking the cycle of intergenerational trauma depends on all of us, especially those who are P R I V I L E G E D
🔆Being trauma-informed includes preventing, recognizing, and responding to many types of trauma.
🔆Crucial to this recognition is understanding that
different forms of systematic oppression, including discrimination and exploitative practices, are traumatic.
🔆This cycle of trauma and oppression calls for healing-centered solutions that have an impact on multiple generations simultaneously (Center for Hunger-Free Communities)
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🔎The Vagus Nerve is the longest and most complex of the cranial nerves. Vagus means “wanderer”.
⬇️It travels from the brain stem down to the abdomen and connects with many major organs participating in many of our bodily functions such as breathing, digestion, heart rate and many more. It is closely connected to the parasympathetic branch of the autonomic nervous system (ANS) and therefore plays a big role in regulating stress responses 💥
🏵️The ANS runs our bodies automatically without us being aware of it🏵️
The ANS has 2️⃣ branches, the sympathetic and the parasympathetic, and responds to signals and sensations via three pathways, each one with a characteristic pattern of response.
✳️The working principle of the ANS is “every response is an action in service of survival”✳️
The ANS acts to manage risk and seek safety. These actions are automatic and adaptative, generated well below the level of conscious awareness.
🔹The sympathetic branch is situated in the middle part of the spinal cord and prepares us for action. It responds to cues of danger and triggers the fight or flight response.
🔹The parasympathetic branch has two pathways traveling within the vagus nerve.
👉Ventral vagal pathway: responds to cues of safety and supports feelings of being safely engaged and socially connected
👉Dorsal vagal pathway: responds to cues of extreme danger. It takes us out of connection, awareness and lead us into a protective state of collapse This is the freeze response.
🔎Polyvagal theory helps us understand that both branches of the vagus nerve calm the body, but they do so in different ways.
👉Fight or flight response of the sympathetic branch releases adrenaline and prepares our body to action by mobilizing the muscles, dilating the pupils, increasing the sweating, accelerating the heart rate, enhancing the senses, etc.
👉Shutdown or freeze, occurs through the dorsal branch of the vagus nerve. This reaction can feel like the fatigued muscles and lightheadedness of a bad flu. In addition to affecting the heart and lungs, the dorsal branch affects body functioning below the diaphragm.
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The mind & the body are not two separate entities, although they are often treated that way.
Chemistry & biology 🔁 mood, emotions, behaviour, thoughts & beliefs.
➡️Communication happens via chemical & physical messengers, such as hormones & neurotransmitters
🏵️If you’ve ever felt your stomach tighten up when you were anxious, you’ve experienced the mind-body connection
💛Befriending the body💛
Physical self-awareness is often the first step in mental health treatments.
in therapy, one way of exploring emotions is by noticing sensations in the body such as pressure, heat, breathing, tension, tingling, pain, hollowness, etc.
🏵️Have you ever noticed a gnawing pain in the stomach when thinking about a negative event.
✳️Our body reproduces the mental content of events✳️
⚠️When these events are traumatic, noticing the physical sensations can be very distressing. This process needs professional guidance.
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