what does our inner critic say?

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That voice can haunt us with “I am…” statements. It’s capable of creating self-doubt, fear and shame within us without ever providing any evidence.

How many people actually challenge it or simply shut it down?

Our ego records in our memory those things that we have experienced that could harm us. As we grow up, we unconsciously adopt and integrate this pattern of negative thoughts toward ourselves and others.

When we cannot identify and separate ourselves from this inner critic, we allow it to impact our behavior and thoughts and shape the direction of our lives.

It may sabotage our successes or our relationships, preventing us from living the lives we want to live and becoming the people we desire to be.

​❇️3 inner critics that all of us have to face❇️

👉SHAME
🔹universal human emotion, typically associated with a negative evaluation of the self; "I am not enough"

👉SCARCITY
🔹never feeling safe, certain & sure enough; "too good to be true", "it is never enough", "don't get so happy, something bad is going to happen"

👉COMPARISON
🔹measuring the self against others. Comparison kills creativity and joy; "X is better than me"

🔆We all experience internal voices that could be nurturing ("you can do this") or invalidating ("you are a failure")

Both coexist and play an important role on our daily functioning.

👉These voices influence how much we dare to take risks, to believe in ourselves, to engage in relationships, to pursue certain careers, etc.

🤔How different would your life be if instead of an inner critic, you had an Inner Advocate? 

​🧘🏽‍♀️How can I do it?

1️⃣ be aware & curious about the voice.

2️⃣ identify how, when, where & why the inner critic shows up.

3️⃣ allow the tension to exist in you. this could be transformative (grow & challenge).

4️⃣ the inner critic could, sometimes, help you see gaps you may have missed. use it to make yourself feel better not worse.

5️⃣ visualize what the inner critic tells you cannot do.

6️⃣ write down, or hold onto, those feelings & thoughts of success. 
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👉tell yourself you are able of doing whatever you set your mind to.

👉 bring up some positive affirmations & be compassionate to yourself.

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