attachment

Attachment is a regulator of emotional experience.

The type of attachments we form with our primary caregivers will be a predictor of the types of attachment we expect to form in adulthood. It will create a blueprint and it will be reenacted in every relationship we have.

We, as humans are wired to connect to our earliest caregivers.

These patterns of connection affect: .

✳️How we cope with different environments

✳️How we interact with others – communication and emotional patterns

✳️How we recover from stress – emotional resilience

🧐Attachment Types- explained

✳️Secure

Caregiver is:
Able to tolerate stress, interpret & respond appropriately, remain calm.

Adult is:
Able to communicate emotions & needs, self-sufficient, emotionally available, able to set healthy boundaries.

✳️Anxious

Caregiver is:
Misattuned to child's needs responding to own needs first. Unpredictability & inconsistency.

Adult is: "People pleaser", need constant reassurance, very sensitive to threat & rejection, struggles to communicate own needs, "helper", values closeness / intimacy. .

✳️Avoidant

Caregiver is:
Disconnected from physical & emotional connections. Rejects the child & is left to navigate emotions alone.

Adult is:
Feels uncomfortable with intimacy, tends to "push people away", hide real feelings, high alert for signs of being controlled, distrusting, independent. .

✳️Disorganized

Caregiver is:
Caregiver could have experienced trauma, it could be seen as a safe haven & source of fear at the same time. Pervasive pattern of extremely inadequate, insufficient & contradictory responses.

Adult is:
Wants intimacy but fears it, expects to be hurt, disconnected self, unable to regulate emotionally, difficulty distinguishing between safety & danger.

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Let me know what is your attachment style?