Attachment is a regulator of emotional experience.
The type of attachments we form with our primary caregivers will be a predictor of the types of attachment we expect to form in adulthood. It will create a blueprint and it will be reenacted in every relationship we have.
We, as humans are wired to connect to our earliest caregivers.
These patterns of connection affect: .
✳️How we cope with different environments
✳️How we interact with others – communication and emotional patterns
✳️How we recover from stress – emotional resilience
🧐Attachment Types- explained
Able to tolerate stress, interpret & respond appropriately, remain calm.
Able to communicate emotions & needs, self-sufficient, emotionally available, able to set healthy boundaries.
Misattuned to child's needs responding to own needs first. Unpredictability & inconsistency.
Adult is: "People pleaser", need constant reassurance, very sensitive to threat & rejection, struggles to communicate own needs, "helper", values closeness / intimacy. .
Disconnected from physical & emotional connections. Rejects the child & is left to navigate emotions alone.
Feels uncomfortable with intimacy, tends to "push people away", hide real feelings, high alert for signs of being controlled, distrusting, independent. .
Caregiver could have experienced trauma, it could be seen as a safe haven & source of fear at the same time. Pervasive pattern of extremely inadequate, insufficient & contradictory responses.
Wants intimacy but fears it, expects to be hurt, disconnected self, unable to regulate emotionally, difficulty distinguishing between safety & danger.
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