We create and believe different stories about emotions, it depends on our upbringing.
✳️Some examples could be:
A family that suppresses "bad" emotions & just allows to express "good" emotions.
A family that believes guilt means "weak", may consider guilt as "bad".
A family who believes "getting anger out of your chest" is "good", may see expressing anger as "positive".
If a child is frightened by their parent's anger, may think of anger as "bad" & something that must be avoided.
A family that did not openly express love & affection, may consider love as a "bad" & unpleasant feeling.
It is useful to spend some time thinking about our childhood experiences. This can give us insight into how and why we struggle with certain feelings.
🧐Try to think about:
▪️What were you told about the best way to handle your emotions?
▪️What emotions did you family express freely?
▪️What emotions did your family suppress?
▪️How did the adults in your family manage their own "negative" emotions?
▪️How did the adults in your family react to your "negative" emotions
As a result, what ideas are you still carrying around today about your emotions and how to handle them?