🤔What do you do when you have a problem?
Usually you try to find a solution ✔️
But what happens when the solution is part of the problem? 😱
This is known as a ⭕VICIOUS CYCLE
In the world of human emotions, vicious cycles are very common.
🔎 One example could be when you are afraid of rejection and so you avoid social situations where possible. this will make you feel even more rejected which is the very thing you fear!
🔎Another example could be when you experience tension at home with your partner and you avoid the conflict by staying longer hours at work, feeling even more dissatisfied with the relationship and increasing the tension.
These attempts to control how we feel are called CONTROL STRATEGIES.
They can be divided in fight / flight strategies, involving fighting and trying to dominate unwanted thoughts/feelings or running away/ hiding from them.
3.Zoning out/ Numbing
✔️It's okay to use them when:
1. It's only in moderation
2. It's only in situations where they can work
3. Using them doesn't stop you from doing the things you value
❌ It can become problematic when
1. You use them excessively
2. You use them in situations where they can’t work
3. Using them stops you from doing the things you truly value
🔎 An example of this could be if you are worried about upcoming exams, you may try to distract yourself from the anxiety by watching some TV. This is fine if you’re only doing it every now and then, but if you do it too much, you will spend all your evenings watching TV and you won’t get any studying done. This, in turn, will create more anxiety as your studies fall further behind. The distraction strategy wont’ work in the long run and will prevent you from achieving something you truly value.
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